First Date Don'ts

First date could be a beginning of long romantic relationship, so you don’t want to make bad impression from the very beginning. If you are not sure how you should behave on this first date, read below a list of first date don’ts you should avoid. Be sure to remember at least some of them, as they may be crucial for your future.

Coming Late

The time you will come to your first date will make the very first impression of you. If you come on time, this will show the other person that you are serious about your relationship and value the boy or the girl you are dating with. So ensure you come just on time or a bit earlier. In case this is impossible, send the person a message or call them to notify them for the exact time you will come. I personally know a girl that just forgot about her first date with a boy she liked. He was waiting for her for half an hour and returned home angry. There was no second chance for another first day, even though they did remain friends. (This usually does not happen mind you!)

Going to the Movie

Do not do this during your first date, since your aim is to know each other better and not sitting for two hours in the dark. There are much better options to spend time together, like café or restaurant. Not for nothing, but it also shows that you couldn’t come up with a better first date idea!

Being Cheap or Fancy

Usually the boy is expected to pay for all the things on their first date, even if the girl offers to pay for herself. But the truth of the matter is that it’s 2013, while being a gentleman and offering to pay is customary, it’s a good idea to know who you are dating before you plan ahead. Don’t be cheap and do not be too fancy at the same time, as both of these are not good for your first date. Pick a place that is in between and does not say too much or too little about your personality. You don’t want to really WOW your date on the frst night because then you will not leave yourself with many follow-up choices. But you can’t exactly choose a diner or McDonald’s either!

Hiding Your Real You

Remember that the person is interested in the real you, so don’t hide it, pretending to be someone else. Just try to be the best version of yourself. The other person is probably as nervous as you, so better try to calm the atmosphere to make the other person feel good in your presence. This way, the person will surely wish to appoint another date with you.

Talking about Your EX

Well, it is the most inappropriate moment to share information about your ex or about your pass relationships. That will show the person that you are probably not ready to start a new relationship, but you are still in love with your ex. Remember, your ex is an ex for a reason – don’t bring them into your future! That happened with one girl on their first date. She was so disappointed, as she got his message wrong and did not even try to talk again with that boy. Do not make this mistake, if you don’t want to put an end from the very beginning.

Having Too Great Expectations

The first date is not a time for big promises, for saying “I love you!” etc. It has to be a fun time spent together. Since meeting in person is different from contacting online or on phone, better do not have too high expectations, to not be disappointed. Just spend a great time together talking about interesting things, as this will help you know the person better. If you feel this is not the right person, you can still remain good friends. Keep in mind that people with too great expectation stay alone for very long time. One friend of mine is an example for this. He never liked the girls he was dating with for some reason until he aged 45… What happened next? He married the most inappropriate woman he has ever met.

The Bottom Line of First Dates Don’ts

Your first date has to be funny time, as you will meet the other person for the first time. Do not have too big expectations, do not come late, don’t choose going to a movie or don’t be cheap or too fancy from the very first date. Remember to not talk about your pass relationships and simply be yourself to give a chance to this new relationship to develop naturally into long-term friendship and love.