After talking with a bunch of different strangers last week and always winding up on the same topic, I've decided to dedicate this week to discussing relationships and the understanding factor within them! It's so funny that men can take public transportation everyday for the rest of their lives and never strike a conversation with a fellow rider, nevertheless tell a fellow rider the weaknesses of their relationship. BUT, you stick a female on public transportation, especially when their going through a rocky point in their relationship, and what ever mode of public transportation you're using, immediately turns into an Oprah special!
Now, I'm no expert on relationships, but I have been in enough shitty ones to know certain tips that if used correctly, act as the grease that keeps the wheels of any relationship turning smoothly. Understanding your relationship and your partner is definitely right up there with trusting them.
Here's a perfect example that serves 2 key purposes of a relationship. First and foremost, LADIES, you're man having female friends will ALWAYS benefit your relationship! Before you start on your tangent, let me explain. Do you really think you're man always knows how to pick out the perfect gift you on his own? Do you think after that huge fight you had, he calmed down and came back to talk to like a civilized person all by himself, especially after knowing that you had no right to start that fight in the first place? HELL NO! I'd say in 75% of these cases, that man called one of his female friends for advice on why the fuck you were acting crazy for no reason. And she, (despite if she knows you or not) gave him some inside tips on "how to handle an unnecessarily irrate female." But instead of you being grateful that he has that option (which benefits you more than you think ), you probably freaked out on him for going to another female right? I'm not going to say "allowing your man" because if you have a relationship where you have to give permission to have a friend, you're relationship probably won't last too long because there's no trust between you. But I will say this, being understanding that you are not going to be the last or only female that you're man has a relationship with, is key to the more than healthy survival of that relationship!
I cannot say it enough that we are all human at the end of the day. Despite whatever morals we have, we all battle the same laws of human nature each and every day! Personally I feel that every relationship has four people in it, only 2 of which are sleeping together! Again, let me explain. You have the inside couple; the two people involved in the intimate relationship. Then you have the female that the male partner goes to for advice and the male that the female partner goes to for her advice. Anything more or less than these four people in a relationship is going to cause friction. On both parts, having one person of the opposite sex that you can turn to about your relationship is KEY!! Did you ever realize that females have more problems deriving from her girlfriends than guys do with their boys? It's because under normal circumstances, a female will go to all her girlfriends for advice when there's an issue in her relationship; just to get different advice that she knows she's not going to take anyway! This results in multiple witnesses to the bad points of your relationship which is bound to be thrown back in your face by at least one of them at some point in the future. If you keep it strictly to one person, you're allowing yourself the privilege of getting factual advice from someone who knows more than just the bad points.
This week we'll take a closer look at all the little things that could be avoided just by understanding your spouse and your relationship. But remember, there is a fine line between being understanding and just a sucker for love! By the end of this week, if you don't already, you should be able to understand the difference! Stay tuned!
By Jo Anne-Patricia @MzFilterless
