The Mistakes of a Woman

As unfortunate as it is, once a woman makes that plunge from innocent to damaged goods, there are a series of events that will happen to her (and anyone she tries to date.)

1. She will never again believe a man who tells her he is working late.
2. She will surely become a stalker on every social networking site in attempts to stay abreast of any brewing situation. This may not be such a bad thing BUT damaged goods will proceed to befriend any of her guy's female friends and/or comment on each and every status comment from a female with some ridiculousness which makes her look very, very insecure.
3. She is bound to cheat at the first moment in which she feels she is being cheated on.
4. She will HATE on any and all happy people around her without even realizing it. This usually comes in the form of bitter comments, tainted advice or my personal pet-peeve, the unnecessary hating of their boyfriends.
5. Her skirts, dresses and shorts will most definitely get shorter than her normal style. This tactic comes from her subconscious needing any and all attention she can get from the opposite sex. (Ladies please know your own body type before doing this.)
6. She will contradict almost everything that she says when it comes to her relationship. This is because she speaks as if she is the resilient person she wants to be only to realize once she is in the situation that she is just not capable of following through with her words.
7. She needs constant reassurance. Yes fellas, I know this is unattractive and highly annoying BUT if you really do care for her, feed into it at seldom times. This will help bring her out of her shell and into her rightful, confident stature.
8. She will try overly hard to impress your friends because she feels that if they vouch for her, so will her new guy! This will only create problems I guarantee you so just stay away from your guys friends. Speak only when spoken to until you are truly confident that your vindictive side is at bay!
9. She will start fights for what you think is no reason. However, in reality, she is starting a meaningless fight and proceed to fight as hard as she can with you each and every time she realizes that she is letting her guard down with you. Corny, yes I know but it happens.
10. She will have no problem and see nothing wrong with going through your phone and calling each and every female number that you have stored. And yes just in case you are wondering, she will proceed to speak to the female, telling her how happy you guys are and how the female should cut you out her life.

Unfortunately, the majority of females do not get over heartbreak. They harbor it until they think they have forgotten or just jump from one relationship to the next in hopes to get over you by getting right under someone else. Word to the wise, if you are going to utilize this rule please understand that the "under" of this rule pertains for a one night stand NOT another relationship!

Bottom line, the only way I personally feel you can help damaged goods (male or female for this matter) is if you were there as a friend to witness the transition. You can not begin to fix something that you are simultaneously trying to understand. It just doesn't work. In all honesty, a relationship should be about growing together not fixing each other!

Yea, Yea JoJoSaidIt bitches!!!

The Ugly Truth

Although most of the time, we don't like to face the ugly truth of things, (most of the time it's the truth about ourselves,) at some point, we have to. Now this truth may come in the form of why every relationship you have has failed. It may be the underlying reason why you always have a problem with coworkers. It could even be the fact that you always seem to find the one person in the room who has the most issues. All these things will continue to happen to you unless you realize the vibe you are feeding into the universe. Yea I said it, if you think for one second that what you put out there isn't going to be returned to you at some point, you are never going to get off the roller coaster you've been on.

The truth of the matter is that we were all given the same basic gifts; a mind, a voice and a heart. It is what we choose to do with those gifts that separates us from the next guy! You have a voice but you don't speak when someone disappoints you, disrespects you or just flat out lies to you. You have a mind, yet you still stay at a dead end job; overworked and underpaid. You want to see the good in people to such a point that you have allowed people to take away from the good in you. Bitterness is a bitch, especially when it is harbored. No one deserves to spend their days coasting through the life of someone else. You have your own life and the same opportunities that were available to your boss, are available to you, if you seek them out. It all starts with motivation.

If you want to be your own boss, go to the damn County Clerk's Office, and fill out the paperwork. If you want to live happily ever after, it's possible, if you love yourself enough to make yourself happy! Now there's a thought that many have forgotten (or never knew in the first place.) Love yourself. How the hell do you expect people to see you for more than how you see yourself? That don't even sound right. Inside, you may feel like you can run an office, maintain a household and care for your family efficiently. Yet, what you show the world is that you only do what you are paid to do at work, you go home and bitch about having to make dinner after working all day and when you're significant other wants some quality time, you claim a headache and go to sleep. Get the picture? If you're capable of doing it, if you want to do it, then get the fuck up an do it. Or stop expecting other people to do it for you.

Life is a bitch. No argument there. But at the end of the day, so are you so you two should get along just fine! Just keep in mind that every person who you allow to disrespect you or take advantage of you is bound to tell someone else what happened. They may not make a big deal out of it but they will tell someone. There will always be another witness to what you allowed someone to do to you. That opens up the door for someone else to treat you the same. If you allowed it to happen without checking it at the door, you can't complain about it. I'm not saying that you should swing on every person who violates you in some way. But open your damn mouth. Just remember if you open your mouth more than twice and never put your words into action; it will be treated as if you never said anything at all. Empty words are worth just as much as silence. It doesn't do shit. At least staying quiet doesn't make you look stupid!

Moral of the story ... know your worth and don't ever let anyone treat you any less!

~Jo Anne-Patricia @MzFilterless
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I Am

In a world so restless,
I am hyper.

In a state of depression,
I am happy.

In a town of sophistication,
I am confused.

In a house of many spirits,
I am alone.

Where he is,
I am not.

Where he longs to be,
I am.

When we are together,
it is heaven in hells eyes.

When we are alone,
it is destiny in disguise.

Through the thunder and rain he was by my side.

But now,
while the storm still rages against the wind,
He remains in his own little world.

Where I am not allowed,
nor am I wanted.

But I am still here,
wanting, wishing and waiting,

for him to want me there.
 
Written By @MzFilterless