New York Going Crazy ...

Where are all my fellow Daily News readers? Have you read the papers this week? Article after article, one more heart breaking then the next. Each one proving my point on how important respect and communication are in a relationship. All across New York, it seems like you're either battling bedbugs or trying to avoid murder.

The first article was about a now heartsick father of a slain 2 year old boy in Brooklyn. After seeing his kid, just last weekend, running around and dancing like any normal 2 year old, Ameen Foster received that phone call every parent fears. To his surprise, the new boyfriend of the child's mother (whom Davis was unaware was living with his son) had beat the little boy to death. To know that this innocent and adorable child was killed over reciting his ABC's is insanity to me. Now, I blame the mother 120%. A child's mind is impressionable enough, why do you already have another man around your 2 year old son in the first place? You can't tell me that woman saw no signs of an abusive personality. I can assure you based on any sociopaths profile that if a man had enough balls to strike a 2 year old with that type of force, he's without a doubt gone upside her head before too! My deepest condolences and continued prayers go out to this father and family.

Next, we have the continued coverage of Donna Cobb, the Harlem nurse who killed her abusive husband with a knife and a ceramic statue! I honestly don't know how to feel about this case. Trust me, I feel her on killing him for beating her like a throw rug for the last 10 years, BUT, she know left their 6 children fatherless! Why? She can never replace their father. This is what I mean when I said know yourself and your spouse. If you've been with a man for ten years and he's been beating you since year two ... I have to ask two questions. Why the fuck did you marry him and why did you proceed to have children with him, knowing he ain't going to change? After year five, you truly know he's not going to change! There is definitely information missing from this story and I hope for the sake of her children - she exposes that truth during her trial. It'd be a damn shame to see six more children caught in the system cuz their mother thought it would be easier to kill their father instead of just growing her backbone to divorce him. Now you're kids may be without both parents! Did you ever think of that? Or just yourself?

This week was filled with stories like this. If it wasn't murder, it was bedbugs, or suicides. New Yorkers ... get your shit together! Last week a little Brooklyn girl became 50Gs richer because she can text with lightning speed ... this week another Brooklyn child got his life taken with lightning speed. Did I miss the part where we focus on the education of these kids? Nope, I didn't, everyone is too focused on the broadcasting bad to even try to find a solution to things that could avoid these tragedies. If budget cuts didn't shut down Brooklyn daycare facilities, maybe that child would have had a safe place to go during the day!

If you think you got it bad, reread this blog, pick up the paper and read how bad other people have it. Maybe you'll appreciate your life and instead of bitching about it, you'll take the steps to change it. At the end of the day, YOU are the only one who can change it!

Remember, Jo Jo Said It!!!

By Jo Anne-Patricia @MzFilterless
Picture Source: Google Images
New Source: The Daily News

Unbelievable

A life worth celebrating -

not meant to be mourned.

A man always true to his own heart,

is now resting righteously where he belongs.

In the arms of other angels,

in the direct presence of God,

Maybe it's the impact he's made on us,

that makes his passing hit so hard.

Though to know he's in a better place,

should comfort all of our cries;

Take a look around you right now -

he touched each and every one of our lives.

A man of such little words,

spoke enough - showed enough - lived long enough

to embed in our heads that he's strong enough -

to watch over all of us -

just as if he were still next to us ... but

now he's just living inside of us!

Grandpa changed lives

he changed opinions -

he gave hope that there all still good people in the world we live in!

A task only an angel could accomplish - considering

we live in a world which swims in deceit & sin.

A life worth celebrating -

not meant to be mourned -

Another angel we lost

because it was their time to return back home!

xoxo Rest In Peace Grandpa xoxo

12*13*30 ~ 12*30*06

By Jo Anne-Patricia @MzFilterless

Picture Source: Google Images

Unbelievable

A life worth celebrating -

not meant to be mourned.

A man always true to his own heart,

is now resting righteously where he belongs.

In the arms of other angels,

in the direct presence of God,

Maybe it's the impact he's made on us,

that makes his passing hit so hard.

Though to know he's in a better place,

should comfort all of our cries;

Take a look around you right now -

he touched each and every one of our lives.

A man of such little words,

spoke enough - showed enough - lived long enough

to embed in our heads that he's strong enough -

to watch over all of us -

just as if he were still next to us ... but

now he's just living inside of us!

Grandpa changed lives

he changed opinions -

he gave hope that there all still good people in the world we live in!

A task only an angel could accomplish - considering

we live in a world which swims in deceit & sin.

A life worth celebrating -

not meant to be mourned -

Another angel we lost

because it was their time to return back home!

xoxo Rest In Peace Grandpa xoxo

12*13*30 ~ 12*30*06

By Jo Anne-Patricia @MzFilterless

Picture Source: Google Images

Air It Out -Young Mothers Who Think They Know It All

Since we all currently find ourselves in the midst of the new "Baby Boom," I feel this topic is completely relevant to today's society. Personally, I feel that when it comes to the topic of motherhood, age cannot be considered a factor. I say this with sheer confidence because I've met 19 year olds who are more mature and headstrong than some 40 year olds, and vice versa, 40 year olds who still act like typical teenagers.

However, I've been seeing a lot of young mothers who truly feel that they know it all just because they gave birth ~~~> WHERE DID THEY GET THIS FROM????? If you find yourself falling into one of the following categories, please take the time (with an open mind) to listen to what I am saying....

If YOU:
1. ... are under the age of 25 and refuse to listen to the advice of your elders because YOU know what's best for your child.
2. ... went your entire pregnancy without going to the doctor or taking pre-natal vitamins
3. ... continued to smoke, drink or party during your pregnancy
4. ... bring your child out of the house before he/she reaches 3 months old
5. ... are struggling to raise the child you have but decided to get pregnant again.
6. ... sleep until 10am (without a baby monitor) while you're child is crying in the crib (which is in the other room)

Listen Ladies, I'm not trying to pass any judgment, BUT, learn to ask for help. You cannot go about living life the same exact way that you did BEFORE you had kids! It's not possible nor is it healthy for a child. Children, especially nowadays are too smart for their own good. they listen to your every word, watch your every move and use them as a guide to develop their own skills. Let's face facts, there is no Parenting Handbook (although there are countless books to use as guides,) in essence it really is a trial of process and elimination. However, you are not the first person in the world to raise a child and for you single parents out there, you are definitely not the first one to carry the load of parenting by yourself. But learn from not only your mistakes, but the mistakes of every parent who has come before you!

Now, let me elaborate on the points I've made above.

1. As much as we hate to admit it when we are younger, most of the time, the annoying advice that our parents give us growing up, WILL BE proven true at some point in our future. Listen to your elders, especially your own parent(s)...they did raise you, didn't they?!? Either learn from their success OR let their failure motivate you not to make the same mistakes they did.

2. Please don't give me the bs that you didn't have insurance. It's called PCAP!!!! You and your baby need to be seen by a medical doctor throughout your entire pregnancy!!!! End of story!

3. Aside from common sense, if you would have gone to the doctor or at least read any type of parenting book you would know why this is an absolute no-no!

4. Now this is a touchy subject. Some people say this is okay, others beg to differ. Speak to your physician on this one. I was always told that you are NOT supposed to bring a baby outside the house until he/she reached 3 months old and received their vaccinations. Some new studies beg to differ.

5. This is just self-explanatory and in my eyes, just plain ignorant. At the end of the day, your child is your responsibility. Just because you have a supportive alliance of friends and family (or know that there is aways government assistance) does not mean it's okay for you to bring a child into the world before you, yourself are able to take care of that child!

6. Do you really need me to speak on the dangers of this?!?!? I didn't think so. Just know that anything can happen, especially while a child sleeps. How would you feel if your child choked to death in their sleep and you didn't know because a) you slept that late and b) you didn't have a baby monitor to hear them?!?!?

I could go on about this topic forever but in the end, the only person you are hurting by your lack of good parenting skills is your child!

Written By @MzFilterless