Let Em Breathe!

The hardest part about a relationship is also one of the most important factors of making one work! The art of letting your partner breathe when THEY need to! Before you even think about the concept in regard to your relationship, think about yourself!  How do you feel when your blood is boiling to the point that you're ready to black out? Everybody has that limit or that one day that (because of whatever reason) they're just not in the mood for bullshit that they'd usually take with a grain of salt! It's only human!

Now, put yourself (and your bad mood) in context to your relationship. You come home frustrated from having a fucked up day at work. You're tired, hungry and just want to relax. Then your partner comes at you with some petty bullshit (or more commonly, something that's important to them but doesn't mean shit to you even if you were in a good mood!) Nine out of ten times, your tension and their disregard of your bad mood is going to lead to a quite unnecessary fight!

LEARN TO LET EM BREATHE!

If your partner would have (to themselves) acknowledged your already fucked up composure and held off on discussing/bitching about their issues - you probably wouldn't have fought. In cases like these, as long as it doesn't become routine or one-sided, it's almost noble to walk on egg-shells for a bit; stroke your partners ego a bit! You're the start of their support team, it's part of your "job"!

Let's take this one step further, shall we? What if the fight escalated or the routine of fights played out and either of you walked away from the situation completely. What do you do?

LEARN TO LET EM BREATHE!

Despite how much was left unsaid, the last words that were said, or the unsettled feelings you are now sitting with - DO NOT CHASE ANYONE!!!! It's not only annoying, it's unattractive! There's a time and a place for everything and sometimes chasing can abruptly end something that could have otherwise been settled productively.

I shouldn't have to say this but I'll clarify this "rule" for those who lack the ability to analyze certain situations. Common sense is needed to execute this rule to perfection. I'm not telling you to walk out on a committed relationship thinking your spouse is gonna let you take your space without consequences. =) You're the only one who knows your partner ... choose your moves accordingly!

All I'm saying is that whether it's 10 minutes or a full day - sometimes it is vital, so let em breathe if they need to! Ladies, I know this rule, whether you like to admit or not, is where most of you fuck up!!! It's hard for us, by nature, not to get what we want, WHEN we want it; especially resolution to an issue. If you love your partner, you must trust your partner (cuz love and trust do go hand in hand) so let them do their guy "remove and sort my head" thing and get used to it cuz it's a part of life. We need our moments too - remember we get bypassed for one week out of every month to be "dysfunctional!" Give that man his own bypass sometimes! Ha, ha, ha!

Yea bitches, JoJo Said It!!!!