The Mistakes of a Woman

As unfortunate as it is, once a woman makes that plunge from innocent to damaged goods, there are a series of events that will happen to her (and anyone she tries to date.)

1. She will never again believe a man who tells her he is working late.
2. She will surely become a stalker on every social networking site in attempts to stay abreast of any brewing situation. This may not be such a bad thing BUT damaged goods will proceed to befriend any of her guy's female friends and/or comment on each and every status comment from a female with some ridiculousness which makes her look very, very insecure.
3. She is bound to cheat at the first moment in which she feels she is being cheated on.
4. She will HATE on any and all happy people around her without even realizing it. This usually comes in the form of bitter comments, tainted advice or my personal pet-peeve, the unnecessary hating of their boyfriends.
5. Her skirts, dresses and shorts will most definitely get shorter than her normal style. This tactic comes from her subconscious needing any and all attention she can get from the opposite sex. (Ladies please know your own body type before doing this.)
6. She will contradict almost everything that she says when it comes to her relationship. This is because she speaks as if she is the resilient person she wants to be only to realize once she is in the situation that she is just not capable of following through with her words.
7. She needs constant reassurance. Yes fellas, I know this is unattractive and highly annoying BUT if you really do care for her, feed into it at seldom times. This will help bring her out of her shell and into her rightful, confident stature.
8. She will try overly hard to impress your friends because she feels that if they vouch for her, so will her new guy! This will only create problems I guarantee you so just stay away from your guys friends. Speak only when spoken to until you are truly confident that your vindictive side is at bay!
9. She will start fights for what you think is no reason. However, in reality, she is starting a meaningless fight and proceed to fight as hard as she can with you each and every time she realizes that she is letting her guard down with you. Corny, yes I know but it happens.
10. She will have no problem and see nothing wrong with going through your phone and calling each and every female number that you have stored. And yes just in case you are wondering, she will proceed to speak to the female, telling her how happy you guys are and how the female should cut you out her life.

Unfortunately, the majority of females do not get over heartbreak. They harbor it until they think they have forgotten or just jump from one relationship to the next in hopes to get over you by getting right under someone else. Word to the wise, if you are going to utilize this rule please understand that the "under" of this rule pertains for a one night stand NOT another relationship!

Bottom line, the only way I personally feel you can help damaged goods (male or female for this matter) is if you were there as a friend to witness the transition. You can not begin to fix something that you are simultaneously trying to understand. It just doesn't work. In all honesty, a relationship should be about growing together not fixing each other!

Yea, Yea JoJoSaidIt bitches!!!

Check It At The Door ...

There seems to be a lot of funny business goin on lately and I'm not sure who told you guys that a respectable female sends you naked pix of herself before she's ever met you, but it must have been the same person who told these same byrds that they are respectable females! Let me clearly define this for you. If you are using social networking sites like Twitter, Myspace and now Facebook to smut yaself out, please understand that you have no one to blame but yourself when your nudey flix wind up on the Internet! Now I personally believe every woman should have at least one naked picture of herself, one smokin bikini shot and of course evidence of how sick you looked in that dress. Having sexy pictures of yourself is completely normal, what's wrong with admiring how beautiful we are? BUT .... unless it is your husband, never ever send naked photos of yourself to anyone. You never know what anomosity the future holds!


Do you seriously think that someone you met off the Internet, who is asking you for naked pics before he asks you to meet him face to face is going to respect you? Especially if you sent them without being asked! HUGE NO NO says JoJo!!!  Sweetheart, as soon as you send those pix, your ass will literally wind up in a folder with the rest of the eye candy, far away from the handful of females he may consider being loyal to when and if he matures! These females make me laugh. I see all these comments from females I know my guy friends don't know personally on some " I miss you ...", "why haven't you called me ...", or my personal favorite, "you're such a jerk ..."! Bitch if he wanted to call you, he would have. Just like if you meant anything more to him than an entertaining way to kill time, he would have been asked to see you. It doesn't matter how far away you live, he would try to make plans to see you. But he hasn't, has he?


Keep dreaming sweetheart. If any of the following apply to you, please change ya swag when you finish reading this blog post, you are slowly but surely killing the game for the rest of us, making men of all ages think we are all byrds and can be treated accordingly!


1. If you go on his social network page and see other females bitching at him for the same things you bitch about. (i.e. not calling you back, or not calling at all, not answering you when you text him. )


2. If he never answers your phone calls but proceeds to answer your texts.


3. If he only compliments you on your looks and/or he only comments on your pix that show skin or where you're purposely popping your ass out (which by the way is excessively corny!)


4. You've never met him but he has your friends on his pages also. (You should check their profiles and pix. You know you stalk him anyway, I'm sure he's saying the same generic shit to them as he says to you)


5. You know he has a girlfriend yet still feel that you may have a shot when and if they break up.


6. You send pix to guys you don't know personally.


7. You see a comment on his page from another female saying something disrespectful about another female and you ask him if she was talking about you! (Hint, this is what happens when you have a guilty conscience. In these cases you already know you're a slide and have obviously accepted yourself.)


8. His guy friends have no clue who you are or know that you're on their boys ish and still request you anyway!


9. You post bikini pix of yourself at the beach (no harm there), but you're wearing makeup! Anyone who goes to the beach wearing makeup isn't comfy in their own skin. They gonna see what ya ugly ass looks like in the mornin anyway!

10. You've accepted the trend of talking to random guys, sending them pix of you, stop talking to them and start talking to their friends.... you're such a byrd, you didn't even realize you're sending the same pix to friends!

Try reading these two books and get yaself together!
Yes sweetheart ... JoJoSaidIt  ... deal with it!


~Jo Anne-Patricia @MzFilterless
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The Ugly Truth

Although most of the time, we don't like to face the ugly truth of things, (most of the time it's the truth about ourselves,) at some point, we have to. Now this truth may come in the form of why every relationship you have has failed. It may be the underlying reason why you always have a problem with coworkers. It could even be the fact that you always seem to find the one person in the room who has the most issues. All these things will continue to happen to you unless you realize the vibe you are feeding into the universe. Yea I said it, if you think for one second that what you put out there isn't going to be returned to you at some point, you are never going to get off the roller coaster you've been on.

The truth of the matter is that we were all given the same basic gifts; a mind, a voice and a heart. It is what we choose to do with those gifts that separates us from the next guy! You have a voice but you don't speak when someone disappoints you, disrespects you or just flat out lies to you. You have a mind, yet you still stay at a dead end job; overworked and underpaid. You want to see the good in people to such a point that you have allowed people to take away from the good in you. Bitterness is a bitch, especially when it is harbored. No one deserves to spend their days coasting through the life of someone else. You have your own life and the same opportunities that were available to your boss, are available to you, if you seek them out. It all starts with motivation.

If you want to be your own boss, go to the damn County Clerk's Office, and fill out the paperwork. If you want to live happily ever after, it's possible, if you love yourself enough to make yourself happy! Now there's a thought that many have forgotten (or never knew in the first place.) Love yourself. How the hell do you expect people to see you for more than how you see yourself? That don't even sound right. Inside, you may feel like you can run an office, maintain a household and care for your family efficiently. Yet, what you show the world is that you only do what you are paid to do at work, you go home and bitch about having to make dinner after working all day and when you're significant other wants some quality time, you claim a headache and go to sleep. Get the picture? If you're capable of doing it, if you want to do it, then get the fuck up an do it. Or stop expecting other people to do it for you.

Life is a bitch. No argument there. But at the end of the day, so are you so you two should get along just fine! Just keep in mind that every person who you allow to disrespect you or take advantage of you is bound to tell someone else what happened. They may not make a big deal out of it but they will tell someone. There will always be another witness to what you allowed someone to do to you. That opens up the door for someone else to treat you the same. If you allowed it to happen without checking it at the door, you can't complain about it. I'm not saying that you should swing on every person who violates you in some way. But open your damn mouth. Just remember if you open your mouth more than twice and never put your words into action; it will be treated as if you never said anything at all. Empty words are worth just as much as silence. It doesn't do shit. At least staying quiet doesn't make you look stupid!

Moral of the story ... know your worth and don't ever let anyone treat you any less!

~Jo Anne-Patricia @MzFilterless
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The Baby Voice

Am I the only one who gets overly annoyed when grown people, male or female, throw on that baby voice when they've put themselves in manipulation mode? Lord, nothing is more annoying! Especially when they continue it throughout an entire conversation. Don't get me wrong, I bat my eyes and soften my voice like the best of them - when I want something. But that usually lasts for no more than a sentence (or in most cases, my apology!)

But then I'm right back to my usual JoJo sporadic thought and frequently cursing tone! Why? Because that's who I am. Why change who I am on your accord? Nnnnnnnaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!!!!!

The next time you think you are as cute as the baby in this picture, take a mirror out, have a moment of silence for your age, and act accordingly! If you are a female and are with a man who falls for this type of behavior .... I suggest you keep a slide on the side cuz eventually that man gonna leave ya ass for a grown woman who don't need the baby voice to get what she wants!!!!! Boooooo Yahhhhhh!!!!! Yeaaaaaa..... JoJo said it bitches!!!! Get some new game!

By: Jo Anne-Patricia @MzFilterless
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A True Inspiration

How many of us know what osteogenesis impferecta is? Let me rephrase that. How many 19 year olds know what osteogensis imperfecta is? I've came across a few articles and conversations about this 19 year old girl from Ridgewood, Queens, who not only studies the more commonly called brittle bone disease, but is raising a 3 year old, tutoring students and studying physics at NYU!

Layla Quinones has an amazing story to tell after just 19 years in this world. According to the Daily News, this chic was so smart, she was taking Regents classes in middle school! Quinones got pregnant at 16 and forced to drop out of high school. Although pregnancy changed the location, it didn't stop her education. She attended GED classes, all while continuing to work throughout her pregnancy. This is not your typical 16 year old! The Daily News reported that "... she finished the program in 2008 with the highest GED score in the state that year."

Having a child is a life altering experience, at any age. But this girl is living proof that having a child doesn't have to be "life ending." She stayed true to her own passions to learn and her dreams to succeed. She's raising her now, three year old son and finishing her degree at NYU. Quinones' dedication to her education and to her son, combined with her intelligence, allows her to get paid for what she loves! She is actively involved in the CSTEP Program at NYU, which pays her for the research she dedicates herself to.

So next time you have the nerve to say you can't do something, remember this girl. Despite what life threw at her, she handled it and she kept it moving towards her goals. What have you done for yourself?

By Jo Anne-Patricia @MzFilterless
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News Source: The Daily News
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I Am

In a world so restless,
I am hyper.

In a state of depression,
I am happy.

In a town of sophistication,
I am confused.

In a house of many spirits,
I am alone.

Where he is,
I am not.

Where he longs to be,
I am.

When we are together,
it is heaven in hells eyes.

When we are alone,
it is destiny in disguise.

Through the thunder and rain he was by my side.

But now,
while the storm still rages against the wind,
He remains in his own little world.

Where I am not allowed,
nor am I wanted.

But I am still here,
wanting, wishing and waiting,

for him to want me there.
 
Written By @MzFilterless

Battle of a Skinny Girl

YES! I am am skinny...


you think I don't know?

If YOU think being this small is sooo

fantastic than why don't you trade places with me...

so you can finally see

that THIS size is an utter catastrophe!



I cannot find clothes that fit my little waist

that also cover my ass

and still show my fashion taste.

My pants are always too long

I cannot slide without a belt

I can never wear shorts or skirts without hearing the jealousy that others felt.



You take my size and give me some of your weight

cuz no matter what I eat...gaining is not in my fate.

To you this may be a blessing but no matter how hard I try

a shirt will ALWAYS look better with boobs....

double sided tape IS a form of a LIE!



People telling me to eat something like I starve myself for an image!

Walk a few steps in my shoes to see what a nightmare being thin is.

Being referred to as "little one"

compared to broomsticks and poles

Walk a mile in my shoes, let me know how far that goes.



Standing five foot one with nothing but ass

32-23-35...

now don't these numbers clash?

Ahh 116-120

that's perfection to me...

not five foot one and 105

just looking oh so unhealthy.



I've reversed the Atkins and doubled the carbs

overdosed on peanut butter and it's still so hard.

The doctors blame metabolism

others blame the stress

yet I'm still here without the weight

man, is this a test?



So the next time you see a petite woman walking

stop and think how she feels when your eyes continue gawking.

Before you stop to tell her how jealous you are that she's thin...

look how much better you fill your clothes

and ask yourself who wins!

written By @MzFilterless