The Ugly Truth

Although most of the time, we don't like to face the ugly truth of things, (most of the time it's the truth about ourselves,) at some point, we have to. Now this truth may come in the form of why every relationship you have has failed. It may be the underlying reason why you always have a problem with coworkers. It could even be the fact that you always seem to find the one person in the room who has the most issues. All these things will continue to happen to you unless you realize the vibe you are feeding into the universe. Yea I said it, if you think for one second that what you put out there isn't going to be returned to you at some point, you are never going to get off the roller coaster you've been on.

The truth of the matter is that we were all given the same basic gifts; a mind, a voice and a heart. It is what we choose to do with those gifts that separates us from the next guy! You have a voice but you don't speak when someone disappoints you, disrespects you or just flat out lies to you. You have a mind, yet you still stay at a dead end job; overworked and underpaid. You want to see the good in people to such a point that you have allowed people to take away from the good in you. Bitterness is a bitch, especially when it is harbored. No one deserves to spend their days coasting through the life of someone else. You have your own life and the same opportunities that were available to your boss, are available to you, if you seek them out. It all starts with motivation.

If you want to be your own boss, go to the damn County Clerk's Office, and fill out the paperwork. If you want to live happily ever after, it's possible, if you love yourself enough to make yourself happy! Now there's a thought that many have forgotten (or never knew in the first place.) Love yourself. How the hell do you expect people to see you for more than how you see yourself? That don't even sound right. Inside, you may feel like you can run an office, maintain a household and care for your family efficiently. Yet, what you show the world is that you only do what you are paid to do at work, you go home and bitch about having to make dinner after working all day and when you're significant other wants some quality time, you claim a headache and go to sleep. Get the picture? If you're capable of doing it, if you want to do it, then get the fuck up an do it. Or stop expecting other people to do it for you.

Life is a bitch. No argument there. But at the end of the day, so are you so you two should get along just fine! Just keep in mind that every person who you allow to disrespect you or take advantage of you is bound to tell someone else what happened. They may not make a big deal out of it but they will tell someone. There will always be another witness to what you allowed someone to do to you. That opens up the door for someone else to treat you the same. If you allowed it to happen without checking it at the door, you can't complain about it. I'm not saying that you should swing on every person who violates you in some way. But open your damn mouth. Just remember if you open your mouth more than twice and never put your words into action; it will be treated as if you never said anything at all. Empty words are worth just as much as silence. It doesn't do shit. At least staying quiet doesn't make you look stupid!

Moral of the story ... know your worth and don't ever let anyone treat you any less!

~Jo Anne-Patricia @MzFilterless
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Nosey vs Observant

Although the similarities are endless, there is a distinct difference between a nosey person and one who is just observant. First and foremost, an observant person doesn't really give a shit about your conversation, they just happen to overhear it! This is what happens when you pay attention to your surroundings - or the other person is just loud as hell.

A nosey person, however, goes out of their way and exerts effort to ear hustle in your conversation. This means they feel they have a reason to listen and are therefore being nosey, involving themselves in what sometimes, most of the times, has nothing to do with them. More than likely in these situations you are dealing with a nosey person. Easiest way to tell the difference ... if the person jumps into the conversation or just laughs to themselves.

I'd like to consider myself a pretty observant person. It kinda comes with the Scorpio territory. But even I have my nosey side. It just so happens that 95% of the time, I can differentiate between the two! It's not that hard, you should try it sometime! I've always noticed these differences when it comes to geographics! Let's take Borough residents vs Long Island residents as the example. The majority of people who live in the Boroughs have to be aware of their surroundings at all times, for obvious reasons. Much more serious shit pops off in the Boroughs than it does in Long Island. Yet, people in Long Island, are for the most part, just nosey. Everyone who lives in Long Island could tell you that everyone is always in everyone else's shit! Not that Facebook hasn't made that factor any better!

Ah yes, thanks to Facebook - people now have an additional way to put their unnecessary two sense in. I'd say unsolicited but if you write some personal or some dumb shit on ya status - you are in fact soliciting comments!

Back to my point. An observant person, in most instances, is the paranoid person in the group who catches everything! Ev-ery-thing. Ev-ery-thing! (Katt Williams voice!) Observant people catch when you bust ya ass, the shit you mumble under your breath or the fact that you've worn the same jeans all week with different shirts! A nosey person actually looks for these things!

Next time you're out in public - take a minute to observe yourself. See which category you fall into and adjust yourself accordingly! And remember ... Jo Jo Said It!

By: @MzFilterless
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Know Your Own Flaws!

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Think about this question for a minute ...

How much easier life would be if we knew (before getting to know someone), what their flaws were? The world would be a much better place right? WRONG!!! Knowing someone else's flaws won't help you any unless you are aware of YOUR OWN FLAWS! Let's face facts here for a minute, no one knows us better than we know ourselves. With that being said, why is it our human nature to expect those who are closest to us, to know things that we ourselves, haven't come to grips with yet?

Let's look at some quick examples. If you know that you are a jealous person when it comes to your relationship; why would you date a Stripper? If you know that you have 2 children to take care of; why would you accept a job that only pays $7 an hour? Why? Because not only do you like making yor own life harder ... YOU have not yet accepted your own flaws.

In order to have any type of relationship (friendships and business relationships included), one must know themselves and be comfortable with themselves. It's like the old saying goes, "You can't be happy with someone else if you are not happy with yourself." Lord, I wish I knew who actually said that! I would love to shake their hand! If we all owned up to our personal flaws, we would be able to see clearly how much our flaws really do affect our daily lives.

Any self-help book will tell you that the first step to solving a problem is to first admit that you have one! If you can identify your own flaws, it will be that much easier to take the necessary steps to overcome them.

Short, simple and to the point! ~~~> Jo Jo Said It !!

Written by Jo Anne-Patricia @MzFilterless

Why Men DON'T Prefer Skinny Women

For every Jack there is a Jill! Yes, it is a little bit more comfortable to hug someone with more flesh than bone. Though, I think instead of doing surveys of a man's most preferred size of a woman, they should have been doing a survey on the reasons woman obsess of losing weight! Those results would be much more interesting. While men might prefer a woman with more meat on her bones, the rest of the world is painting fairy tale pictures of gorgeous super models with frail limbs and flat stomachs; implying that is what men want. If you were to put a "thicker" presence into that image, society would say it looks "out of place." I think society, as a whole and not as a specific gender needs to alter their image of perfection. There is no perfect size because their is not one definition of perfect. To one person perfect may be 190lbs standing 5'5", or it could be 115lbs standing 5'9". We need to start focusing on what people could bring to the table and not how they look sitting there!

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